I am not sure, I am just checking out things, looking to expand myself. My wife, is also curious but not ready just yet. I figure if I come home with some great stories she will either join in, or ask me to stop. Whatever she decides is good with me.
I like the dark side of sexuality, but have not found a person I can trust enough to explore pain. Not into cross dressing, or anything like that. Costumes, role play and plain old fashioned sexuality are great for me.