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As an exhibitionist and extrovert, I have shared hundreds of pictures and stories with the adult community about my hotwife experiences. I am always open to hearing from people who have questions or need advice, as well as receive steamy, hot comments from those who enjoy looking at my photos.

Of all the comments I see in my inbox, one reoccurring premise seems to present itself on a frequent basis: men often tell me that if they were my husband, they would keep me all to themselves and never think about letting another man touch me! Unfortunately for these men I am never flattered by such comments.

I understand the intention is to make me feel so beautiful and special that I would be placed on a pedestal, sitting high above the presupposition that I am only being shared because my husband isn’t as devoted to me as someone else could be.

This is all unspoken and communicated solely by the understanding that society has romanticized the idea of selfishness in relationships. We believe that someone’s obsession to keep us exclusive is a form of endearment.

This mentality is unique all to itself, and outside the concept of love would not be acceptable. Can you think of any instance other than this where someone is admittedly selfish, proud to boast his or her unwillingness to share? Can you think of any instance where we expect someone to act selfish in this way? I can’t.

I make this point for a single reason; every couple that enjoys the intimacy of the hotwife lifestyle understands the importance of being selfless. This goes directly against the grain of how we are conditioned to be selfish when dealing with mainstream sexuality.

In my humble opinion, this is why more couples don’t get the privilege of experiencing the closeness that my husband and I have over the course of our marriage.

The need for many husbands to be the sole provider of sexual fulfillment overrides the desire to see his wife enjoy her sex life to the fullest. Likewise, many wives see their spouse as a prize they had to fight for. The idea that the husband would even consider that they find sexual enjoyment from another man would diminish the grandeur of marriage for them.

These perspectives are based on the previously mentioned paradigm where being selfish is not only par for the course, it is encouraged. It is when both parties look beyond what they want and put the spouse first that they get more than they could have otherwise. Simply put, you get more when you give instead of take.

For example, my husband is turned on the most when I am free to express myself sexually. This means communicating my wants, desires, and fantasies, and acting on them without feeling like the eye of judgment will be on me for doing so. How does being selfless work in a situation like this?

Well, for starters I have to acknowledge that he gets really turned on when I am open with him sexually. As anyone (man or woman) can tell you, this is easier said than done. Why? Because I have to be willing to put myself in a vulnerable position and trust that, regardless of the outcome of our conversation, he is still going to love me. To tell your husband that you are in the mood to go out to a bar, pick up a guy, then go home with him and fuck his brains out can be an intimidating and scary conversation! Or to look at an adult personals site and tell your husband what you like about someone and why you want the two of you to meet him has the potential to feel awkward. It would be much easier to just let my husband initiate all the kinky stuff that we do, but that would be unfair to him and selfish on my part.

My husband, on the other hand, is selfless in his understanding that I can enjoy my sex life much more if I am given the opportunity to experience a variety of men and adventures. To know that another man could fuck me and be so good that I would think about it for days afterward has the potential to make him very uncomfortable. There are nights that he has to wait his turn, even though he is my number one, sitting at home with his stomach in knots as he waits for me on the couch. I’m sure he would rather have me there so he could fuck me sooner, but true satisfaction for him is knowing I am experiencing pleasure, regardless of who is giving it.

Being able to share that with me gives him a bond to me that no other man can have, which could never happen without abandoning the selfishness we are all predisposed to.

Because we are both selfless in these aspects, we are able to enjoy incredible experiences that many couples could only dream of. We get to see aspects of each other that many people are never privileged to see, witness a side of one another that most bury within, and learn more about ourselves than we could ever imagine.

Simply put, we get more by giving instead of taking, and none of this is possible without being selfless.